Here is
a tale of two ways.
The
first way is described at the beginning of Dexter Filkin’s book The Forever War. A group of people have come to witness a
trial and sentencing of a murderer. Under
Islamic law, the accused could go free if the victim’s father will forgive the
murderer. While the accused’ s father
begs for his sons life, the victim’s father is unmoved. “I am not able to forgive him.” With that, the sentence is handed out and the
accused murder is beheaded.
On Oct
6, 2006 a horrific event happened in Nickel Mines, PA. A lone gunman entered a one room Amish school
house and shot 10 girls and killed five, the worse shooting in the town’s
history. But what happened next amazed the world: the families of the girls who
were shot came to the shooter’s house and forgave his family.
This
illustrates two ways: the way of justice and the way of forgiveness. This is
not an indictment of one culture and praise of another, because justice and
forgiveness belong to all cultures.
Rather, this reminds us of the important tension that exists in our
world whenever tragedy happens and whenever bad things happen in our lives.
This
week we are reminded again of this tension and provided with a choice of which
path we should take. The bombings in
Boston and the actions of Dr. Gosnell are just two examples of the horror that
exists in our world. In both events,
innocent people were brutally murdered, lives were irrevocably changed and the
world again tasted the horror that undergirds much of our daily existence.
Already
the internet is cluttered with calls for these men’s blood. These are echoes and reminders of calls to
war from the recent past and throughout human history. Can society heal
The
question at the heart of this, is can we and should we practice forgiveness?
Can we forgive the Boston Bombers for their actions that took the lives of
three people and injured close to two hundred? Can we forgive Dr. Gosnell for
the brutal murder of innocent children? Or on a closer level: can we forgive
those that have wronged us today? Can we forgive our wives and our husbands for
the things they do to us? Can we forgive bosses and co-workers for being
insensitive? Can we live on the path of forgiveness?
To
suggest that we should does not negate the justice question in anyway. The
surviving Boston bomber must be put on trial and sentenced. Dr. Gosnell must own up to his crimes. Each of these must pay the consequences for
their actions. Forgiveness is not about
‘forgetting’ that a crime happened, or letting someone ‘off the hook,’ and to
look the other way. It is not about
ignoring the consequences of behavior, but rather dealing with the consequences
in a healthy and positive way.
While
forgiveness may not be a uniquely Christian grace, it is a central one. Forgiveness has played an important role in
the Christian faith from the beginning. It may not have always been practiced
as much as it should have been, but it is at the heart of the Christian
life.
Jesus
taught the path of forgiveness. In the
heart of the Lord’s Prayer, we read, “forgive us our debts, as we forgive our
debtors” (Matt 6:12). When Peter asks how many times he should forgive someone,
Jesus responds, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.”
(Matthew 18:22). He reiterates to his disciples, “forgive and you will be
forgiven.” And most importantly of all,
in the face of even his own death, Jesus not only taught the path of
forgiveness, he lived it, for as he was being crucified, he said, “Father,
forgive them, for they know not what they do.” (Luke 23:34).
The
Amish believe that forgiveness should be practiced as much as possible. They
understand that their forgiveness is bound up with the forgiveness that we display
to others. They understand that if they
do not forgive, God will not forgive them. While this may and does seem
self-serving the other side of this is that if they truly forgive a person,
then God will forgive that person as well (Matt 18:18). In other words, they believe that there is a
real correlation between the forgiveness we practice here on earth and the
forgiveness that God grants in heaven. For an unbeliever, this may seem an
inconsequential thing, but for believers, this is extremely significant. This
is where we put our lives to the test and allow forgiveness to rule in our
hearts.
If we do
not allow ourselves to forgive, then unforgiveness and the sin of others will
rule our lives. When we forgive, we free
ourselves from the sins of other people.
When we
forgive someone, we acknowledge that there was a wrong done and hurt was the
result. With forgiveness, we restore the
relationship we had, but in the light of the hurt. We can’t pretend or ignore the events, but
nor should we dwell on them.
This may
seem easy when the infractions are less serious, when a person has missed a
date or misplaced some important information.
But what about when we are talking about serious offenses, like murder,
terrorism and acts of violence. Can we
forgive then? Should we forgive then?
I am not
directly related to either of these events, nor directly involved with the
major tragedies of our day. I do not,
for a second, want to minimize or trivialize anybody’s pain. I do not want to say that I have experienced
similar things, because I haven’t. I do
not want to say that I can even imagine the level of suffering that has been
present in people’s lives. I do not want
to gloss over their pain and their suffering.
But at
the same time, I have been the object and victim of cruel things. I have been betrayed, I have been rejected, I
have been abandoned. I understand pain
and the desire for revenge. On the other
hand, I have betrayed, I have rejected and I have abandoned, and I recognize
the desire to be forgiven. I stand as
one who has betrayed God, abandoned God, forsaken God, and yet at the same time
has been forgiven by God, welcomed by God, loved by God and accepted by God.
Christ
calls us to forgive one another and the way of peace is the way of forgiveness.
Imagine if we could, on an individual level, forgive those who have wronged
us. Imagine if we would heed the prayer
that we pray every week and ‘forgive our debtors.’ Imagine what good could
happen in this world if we could do this.
Imagine, if we could, as a
country, and as a culture embrace the grace of forgiveness.
I am not
a ‘pie in the sky’ idealist. Countries have interests to protect…namely their
people. And while the State must do what
it needs to do, the people who make up the state can practice the art of
forgiveness.
The work
begins, as always, with us, with individuals. We must work to cultivate
forgiveness in our lives. When people
wrong us, especially in the small and ordinary things in our lives, we must
work to overcome our pride and forgive them. This leads us to be able to
forgive people for bigger crimes against us.
Most of us will never deal with the events like the tragedies we have
mentioned, but if we forgive for smaller things, we can work at forgiving the
bigger ‘stuff.’
Forgiveness is a path
that we can walk. We might not be able
or ready to forgive people for everything right away. But with time, we can work at it and to
forgive people as Christ as forgiven us.
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